When Your Life is Falling Apart

to of fallen down shacks as a metaphor for when your life is falling apartNancy Smeltzer, MFA

Sometimes Life throws you curve balls. I mean really big ones! You’ll have been going along, cruising through life just fine at a comfortable speed, and then out of nowhere..POW! You find that you’re in the middle of a life crisis you hadn’t planned on The photo on the left that I took of some broken down shacks which I then added disjointed tiles to me speaks of some of the experiences that I’ve had.

At the time, many of these life changers seemed to come out of nowhere. Looking back afterwards, with the accurate clarity of hindsight, I can see that there were signs of impending doom. I just didn’t want to see them. My need to control the situation and have it turn out a certain way that I thought NEEDED interfered with me seeing that times had changed and I needed to allow different options. There’s an old saying that insanity is when you keep doing the same things, but expect different results. If that’s the case, then I have had many insane moments in my life.

Early on in life, we learn a set of coping skills that seemed to work when we were little. As we mature, hopefully we add on more and more optimal behaviors. Unfortunately, society today does not often reward taking responsibility for ones’ own actions, and thus many of our attempts to control a situation involve childish patterns. Add to that is the fact that many of our behaviors are based on stuck energy associated with past traumas that are hidden away in our unconscious minds or reptilian brains. That part of us has the main edict of survival at all costs, and given that it has the rational capability of a two year old, no wonder many of our attempts to get through life are, well, pretty childish.

What I’ve found to be so much more optimal is to surrender the need to control and turn over the outcome to the Divine. The Big Game Plan is well spelled out, but my human attempts to see all of it are limited by the frailties of a mortal body’s capabilities to understand. I can see that there is a plan, and I trust that things will work out if I get out of the way and let them happen.

So that’s the current big issue that I’m working on, surrendering the illusion that I’m in control and turning over my endeavors to the Divine. However, the big, obvious, overlying layers of control that I had have now been healed and cleared. I’m down to the more subtle layers that I’m not always aware of. What I’ve learned to recognize is that if my body is hurting, or if when I’m working on an issue, and resistance is coming up in the form of rocky energy, then I know that somewhere, I’m butting heads with my need to control. As I gain more and more practice at surrendering, then my “falling apart” happend  less and less. I then am more confident in what I’m doing and future attempts at surrendering are more and more successful.

Which techniques have you used in important life lessons? Were you able to keep the changes up, or did you fall back into old patterns? 

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You can find out more about my healing work at www.hearthealing.net, about my artwork on my web site at www.fiberfantasies.com (be patient as it loads; it’s worth it), and can find me on Google + , Facebook (for Transition Portals), Facebook (for Fiber Fantasies),  and Twitter.

About Nancy Smeltzer

I'm passionate about long distance spiritual and alternative healing, having had a successful practice now for over ten years. My clients work with me over the phone and on Skype from all over the USA and Canada, as well as Switzerland, Russia, and Australia. I specialize in helping people heal their negative repeating patterns of behavior and remove the stuck energy in their unconscious minds. By doing that, they can quit going round and round in circles,. repeating the same mistakes, and move forward to having the life of their dreams. Besides my holistic healing practice, I've also been professionally creating art quilts and other fiber arts for over 30 years. My specialty is contemporary beaded art quilts. On my web site, I bill myself as the "Self Proclaimed Button and Bead Queen of Maryland (USA)." My recent works have images that are based on what I see when I tap into a person's energy field and are called Meditation Gardens. These visionary art pieces are the perfect place for that person to play and meditate. In my spare time, I'm a rabid, avid "dirty nails" gardener, composing scenes with plants. Sometimes, I come inside so dirty that my clothes have to go straight into the washing machine; they're too dirty for the dirty clothes hamper! -The Official Google + site for Nancy Smeltzer
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