Resistance to Change

Resisting change image

Resisting change image

Nancy Smeltzer, MFA

I like to think of myself as a pretty open person, who would go with the flow, and not be alarmed by change. Notice, I said “like to think”. In a few areas, that’s true, and with practice, I’ve gotten better at turning things over to the Universe and as we say down South, “keep my picky paws out of the way!” So easy to say; so hard to do. For me, I’ve found that society seems to promote those that work the hardest, and if you’re not getting anywhere, then you must not be trying hard enough.

In my work on myself and with my clients, I’ve found that nothing could be further from the truth regarding the hard work. I’m not saying that things will just be given to you without some effort on your part. However, resistance to change doesn’t get you anywhere and there comes a time when you have to turn your decisions over to the Universe and ask for “whatever is in my best and highest good.” That often turns out not to be what you think you want.

That’s when the “but..but..buts” set in. I have to have things be this way because…. If only I had (fill in the blank) , then my life would be perfect. Ever talked to yourself that way? I know I have, and as a result, I build a barbed wire fence around myself like I did in the illustration above. Then change really doesn’t have a chance.

I had dozens of excuses why I shouldn’t move. I’ve lived in the same house for 30 years. My best friends live next door. I don’t know anybody where I’m moving to except for the real estate agent. What If I don’t like the place? I won’t have the money or the strength to move again. (I can see why old people like my mother just stay in their houses until they die; it’s too much trouble to pick up and move).

However, the one thing that has kept me going is that I want to choose the last house I buy (and I’m planning on living quite a few more years). It’s that I’m choosing that is important to me. It’s become my mantra at 3 am when I can’t sleep and go “What the $#@#% was I thinking?”

Magazine articles and blogs are always suggesting making changes in your life in order to live longer. Most of these are lifestyle changes regarding exercise and diet, but a local radio station here in the DC ares has been suggesting learning a new language or take new routes to work to program new brain patterns. Anything to bring yourself out of a rut. Well, moving to another state will certainly be a big change for me (I did check out the grocery stores, what wine they sell, and found a great bead store for my art work), so I’m not totally throwing myself to the wind. Please keep posted as I continue on this journey.

P.S. I feel that I’ve made a resolution with surrendering to moving being a good thing. I have a cat that pees inappropriately if I’m dating the wrong guy or making wrong decisions in life. It’s as if he’s a barometer of my energy. Since I brought him back from the boarding kennel, his litter habits have been perfect…. Hurray!

What are some big changes that you’ve made in your life? How did you get past any resistance that you had to making the change?

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About Nancy Smeltzer

I'm passionate about long distance spiritual and alternative healing, having had a successful practice now for over ten years. My clients work with me over the phone and on Skype from all over the USA and Canada, as well as Switzerland, Russia, and Australia. I specialize in helping people heal their negative repeating patterns of behavior and remove the stuck energy in their unconscious minds. By doing that, they can quit going round and round in circles,. repeating the same mistakes, and move forward to having the life of their dreams. Besides my holistic healing practice, I've also been professionally creating art quilts and other fiber arts for over 30 years. My specialty is contemporary beaded art quilts. On my web site, I bill myself as the "Self Proclaimed Button and Bead Queen of Maryland (USA)." My recent works have images that are based on what I see when I tap into a person's energy field and are called Meditation Gardens. These visionary art pieces are the perfect place for that person to play and meditate. In my spare time, I'm a rabid, avid "dirty nails" gardener, composing scenes with plants. Sometimes, I come inside so dirty that my clothes have to go straight into the washing machine; they're too dirty for the dirty clothes hamper! -The Official Google + site for Nancy Smeltzer
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