Life Grows Where it Can

Desert Clearing, Joshua Tree, California, USANancy Smeltzer, MFA

Life in the desert is such a precarious existence. That fact was brought home to me when I was reading the “Before You Come”tips about going into the Joshua Tree National Park before heading out there for a retreat. The dehydration details were a little sobering, so I packed my water bottle sling bag to take with me. Little did I know that I was going to get another lesson in how to have meaningful relationships,

I had been in high desert in the winter before, but the area around Joshua Tree was really, really dusty. Fortunately, I had remembered my Chap Stick and carried it around with me all the time. I first saw the Joshua Trees at night, and they looked to me like cactus with pom-poms. It was amazing that these trees, or actually yucca plants, could grow as tall as they were (sometimes 15′ or 5 m), given that the water supply was so little. Couple that with the fact that there really wasn’t much to slow down the winds, life in that area is difficult, especially at that time of year.

Cactus skeleton surrounded by brushI took this photo of a small cactus skeleton, (about 12″ or 30.5 cm) which is in the center of the photo. However, above it, are two kinds of short brushy plants,  about 8″ or 20.5 cm tall. There they sat, looking like a bunch of dead sticks, but I was assured by our guide, that come Spring, and more rain, they would flourish with signs of life.

How much like that is so many of the lives around us. They’re suffering in silence for lack of spiritual rain and Love, and there they sit, alive but not thriving. There’s a silent hunger around us for acknowledgement and validation as being worthy. However, I’ve found in so many of my clients that while they long for outside recognition, they ignore giving to themselves what they so much want from others. My personal experience has been that until I really, really, and I mean REALLY loved myself, having deep personal relationships eluded me. I thought I loved myself, but until I felt deep, abiding Divine Love, I just didn’t get how profound feeling can be.

The big surprise for me on my own healing path was that I was the one who was putting on the brakes to receiving Divine Love and as a result, deep meaningful relationships from others. I was too scared to surrender that much of my illusion of control to allow much more than crumbs of Love in. So, I invite you to consider that perhaps you’re doing the same and creating a desert in your Soul. It’s the surrendering part that I’ve written about in past postings and will continue to do so for 2013 as I find more insights into what is my current big issue on my list of things to heal, receiving Divine Love.

So how does the garden of your soul grow? Are you lavishing Love onto it or are you holding back on  letting yourself thrive and flourish?

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About Nancy Smeltzer

I'm passionate about long distance spiritual and alternative healing, having had a successful practice now for over ten years. My clients work with me over the phone and on Skype from all over the USA and Canada, as well as Switzerland, Russia, and Australia. I specialize in helping people heal their negative repeating patterns of behavior and remove the stuck energy in their unconscious minds. By doing that, they can quit going round and round in circles,. repeating the same mistakes, and move forward to having the life of their dreams. Besides my holistic healing practice, I've also been professionally creating art quilts and other fiber arts for over 30 years. My specialty is contemporary beaded art quilts. On my web site, I bill myself as the "Self Proclaimed Button and Bead Queen of Maryland (USA)." My recent works have images that are based on what I see when I tap into a person's energy field and are called Meditation Gardens. These visionary art pieces are the perfect place for that person to play and meditate. In my spare time, I'm a rabid, avid "dirty nails" gardener, composing scenes with plants. Sometimes, I come inside so dirty that my clothes have to go straight into the washing machine; they're too dirty for the dirty clothes hamper! -The Official Google + site for Nancy Smeltzer
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