Forgiving Ourselves and Accepting Gladness

A flower with a starburst as a metaphor for forgivenessNancy Smeltzer, MFA

One of my favorite newsletters to get everyday is from the “Daily Good“. It’s a non-profit web site that somehow manages to have the most amazing writers fill their pages with uplifting stories of human triumph and perseverance. By all means, if you’re not already subscribing to their free offerings, you have a treat in store for you. Recently, they had an interview with one of my favorite authors, Elizabeth Gilbert. Her book, Eat, Pray, Love, I believe is one that many people can identify with who have gone through a divorce and have had to re-invent themselves.

In the interview, Ms. Gilbert spoke mostly about creative people, but because of current family situations, I found that the few lines that she mentioned regarding the joy that comes from forgiving ourselves really resonated with me. I know that for myself, it is so much easier for me to forgive somebody else than it is for me to forgive myself. That unfortunately seems to be true for many of my clients, too.

So why is it that we hold ourselves to a different standard than we would for others? I know that some of the harsh thoughts I’ve had about myself in the past were much meaner than I would have said to anybody who has “wronged” me in my life. I know about taking on soul pieces that I wrote about in a previous blog. There’s also the concept of what I know of as the Collective Consciousness, or the majority of humanity that has a vested interest of maintaining the status quo. That way, they don’t have to look at their own issues and change if everybody stays the same.

In the interview, Ms. Gilbert talks about the joy that comes from forgiving ourselves. I know that has been true for myself, when I’m not beating myself up over something I’ve done or said. Near the end of the interview, she quotes Jack Gilbert with this delightful thought… “We must have the stubbornness to accept our gladness in the ruthless furnace of this world.” O-O-Oh! That really resonated with me. I so feel right now as if I’m being literally burned some days, and I am now going to try and find something to be glad about every day. Right now, some unseen song bird outside my window is singing his heart out, as if to say, “OK, Nance, let’s see you do what you’re saying you’re going to do.” I hope that you will send me wishes to stick to my resolve regarding finding something the be glad about every day.

What do you do when it feels like the walls are closing in around you? How do you handle when you think you haven’t done enough?

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About Nancy Smeltzer

I'm passionate about long distance spiritual and alternative healing, having had a successful practice now for over ten years. My clients work with me over the phone and on Skype from all over the USA and Canada, as well as Switzerland, Russia, and Australia. I specialize in helping people heal their negative repeating patterns of behavior and remove the stuck energy in their unconscious minds. By doing that, they can quit going round and round in circles,. repeating the same mistakes, and move forward to having the life of their dreams. Besides my holistic healing practice, I've also been professionally creating art quilts and other fiber arts for over 30 years. My specialty is contemporary beaded art quilts. On my web site, I bill myself as the "Self Proclaimed Button and Bead Queen of Maryland (USA)." My recent works have images that are based on what I see when I tap into a person's energy field and are called Meditation Gardens. These visionary art pieces are the perfect place for that person to play and meditate. In my spare time, I'm a rabid, avid "dirty nails" gardener, composing scenes with plants. Sometimes, I come inside so dirty that my clothes have to go straight into the washing machine; they're too dirty for the dirty clothes hamper! -The Official Google + site for Nancy Smeltzer
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