Following the Trail of Life – Making the Right Choice

Illustration for Distracting Trail Markers of LifeNancy Smeltzer, MFA

Sometimes, it’s hard to tell which signs in life to follow. Often, I find that I’m pulled in a number of competing, but desirable directions. I could do this, but I could also do that, and then, there’s this. They all seem like they could lead me somewhere useful/profitable/fun… you get the idea. After awhile though, I choose none of the above, because there are too many choices. I have been known not to make any choice because of the fear of making the wrong choice, and then the options pass me by. Then follows the usual wail of “I shoud’a”s which just succeed in making me feel even worse about my indecisions in making a choice.

Then, there’s another path that I’ve been known to make which is to follow a well-worn sequence that I’ve used over and over. “If it worked in the past, why not do it again?”, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it!”, and “Don’t rock the boat!” are all examples of the kind of thinking that keeps you doing the same old, same old. My take is that’s fine as long as the situation doesn’t change, but since Life is always throwing us curveballs, hanging on to a well-worn strategy will probably not be successful for very long after new variables have been added to the mix.

For me, the most difficult situation is when there doesn’t seem to be any perceivable indicators as to which direction to take. A choice has to be made, and I just don’t see any viable options. In reality, I’ve found that’s me not wanting to look into my heart of hearts and be still long enough to hear what I need to hear. These situations often involve me standing up for myself, leaving a situation that is not serving me well, or pretending that things aren’t as bad as they really are. “Not a clue what to do” I lament mournfully, and wring my hands in despair.

Through this healing work that I now practice, I’ve learned that for most people their inner voice originates in the middle of their chest. It goes by many names, such as “b-s detector”, but I like to call it my “early warning detection system”. If I allow myself to be quiet and focus my attention into that area, and ask short questions with simple yes/no answers for possibilties, I can usually hear what I need to do. It’s the following my true answer, since it’s usually not what I wanted to hear, that’s the hard part.

So, the take-away from this posting is that there are always signs to follow as to what your next move should be. It’s listening to those small, quiet tugs on your shirt sleeve and following them that will keep the situation from escalating to the point where you have to be whomped on the head with a “clue-by-four” by the Universe to get you to pay attention. Having done that a fair number of times in my life, that can get really painful after awhile.

How do you go about making your decisions, and what do you do when there don’t seem to be any options?

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About Nancy Smeltzer

I'm passionate about long distance spiritual and alternative healing, having had a successful practice now for over ten years. My clients work with me over the phone and on Skype from all over the USA and Canada, as well as Switzerland, Russia, and Australia. I specialize in helping people heal their negative repeating patterns of behavior and remove the stuck energy in their unconscious minds. By doing that, they can quit going round and round in circles,. repeating the same mistakes, and move forward to having the life of their dreams. Besides my holistic healing practice, I've also been professionally creating art quilts and other fiber arts for over 30 years. My specialty is contemporary beaded art quilts. On my web site, I bill myself as the "Self Proclaimed Button and Bead Queen of Maryland (USA)." My recent works have images that are based on what I see when I tap into a person's energy field and are called Meditation Gardens. These visionary art pieces are the perfect place for that person to play and meditate. In my spare time, I'm a rabid, avid "dirty nails" gardener, composing scenes with plants. Sometimes, I come inside so dirty that my clothes have to go straight into the washing machine; they're too dirty for the dirty clothes hamper! -The Official Google + site for Nancy Smeltzer
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