Alternative Healing – Bemoaning Your Fate is not Going to Work

An angel showering hearts as a metaphor for seeing lessons in what life throws usNancy Smeltzer, MFA

The recent death of my mother has given me lots of opportunities to reflect on a wide variety of subjects. Many of these thoughts have included what I feel are Western society’s role models of “playing the victim”. “Of course you’re angry about some of the ways that you were treated and the situations that came up” was one of the prevalent themes I wallowed in. “Poor, poor me having to take off a month to help clean out my mother’s house, while I wasn’t getting paid” was another recording I played over and over in my head. Many people would have found that these thoughts were totally rational if they knew all of the details of the events that unfolded for me. However, not allowing myself to fully experience the painful accompanying emotions took a physical toll on me, which I’ll write about in a future blog posting on this site.

The many colleagues that I work with and I have found that in alternative healing, it’s when we try and deny that such emotions even exist, or allow them to surface for a minute and then try to shove them under the carpet is when we set ourselves up for bigger problems down the road. It seems as if the Universe presents you with opportunities to heal a given issue. If we ignore it, it just going to manifest at some future point. The circumstances that elicit the second issue may not be the same, and the symptoms as to how the second problem manifests itself may be different, but surface it will, and unfortunately, often bigger and worse than the previous incident and how it impacted you.

The problem often is that we don’t see the connections between the two events as they often are years apart. A past life incident could also be involved. Most of us in Western society also aren’t taught to interpret what’s going on and how to make any useful changes from the usual Western tradition of “woe is me”, so not much useful progress is made.

That’s where I come in. I’ve had almost nine years of experience of ferreting out the root of these underlying issues, and can often quickly get people back on track with regard to repeating patterns of behavior. The graphic that I chose for this posting shows an angel showering down hearts of love. However, when it comes to my own core issues, (I’ve healed all the easy ones), what is falling on me often doesn’t feel like love but rather like I’m being dumped on. It took me quite awhile to learn that what can often feel so painful is really an act of love from the Universe. I’m also grateful to have others who are experienced to help. We all have our blind spots when it comes to our own “stuff”, and having fresh eyes can give you a new vantage point to overcome your own stuck spots. Any healer who thinks she can do it all by herself will often find herself stuck in some pretty painful spots.

Where do you find that you keep repeating the same patterns over and over? What will it take for you to change your usual behaviors? Do you even know how to change your usual responses to situations?

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About Nancy Smeltzer

I'm passionate about long distance spiritual and alternative healing, having had a successful practice now for over ten years. My clients work with me over the phone and on Skype from all over the USA and Canada, as well as Switzerland, Russia, and Australia. I specialize in helping people heal their negative repeating patterns of behavior and remove the stuck energy in their unconscious minds. By doing that, they can quit going round and round in circles,. repeating the same mistakes, and move forward to having the life of their dreams. Besides my holistic healing practice, I've also been professionally creating art quilts and other fiber arts for over 30 years. My specialty is contemporary beaded art quilts. On my web site, I bill myself as the "Self Proclaimed Button and Bead Queen of Maryland (USA)." My recent works have images that are based on what I see when I tap into a person's energy field and are called Meditation Gardens. These visionary art pieces are the perfect place for that person to play and meditate. In my spare time, I'm a rabid, avid "dirty nails" gardener, composing scenes with plants. Sometimes, I come inside so dirty that my clothes have to go straight into the washing machine; they're too dirty for the dirty clothes hamper! -The Official Google + site for Nancy Smeltzer
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